Whom do you believe and does it even matter?

There are situations in life when you really do not want to learn the truth and I will give 2 examples of that.

Sometimes during a divorce you see massive acrimony and 2 sides to every story.  The girls side will believe the girls side, the boys side will believe the boys side, no matter what lies are told.

Of course everybody will paint a picture of pure innocence to get the most sympathy for their case.  But ultimately, no matter what, you want to believe your side, not matter how preposterous the stories sound.

But then the question come, does it really matter whom you believe? 

I have a cousin that is getting divorced and I would have never imagined that she would be getting divorced.  She was raised in a small town in India, and got an arranged marriage to a kid that was also raised in India but working in USA.  I remember seeing them initially, they would be glued to each other and were super lovey dovey.

I did not get a chance to hear the boys side, since we are from the girls side.  The girls side say that the boy only listens to his mother and not to his wife.  That is the gist of the complaint.

I cannot imagine that someone would be getting divorced over such a small issue.  But that is what you hear from our side.  We are of course going to support our side and believe whatever we hear, because you really do not want to dig and find out the truth.  The girl was working in another town then where her husband worked.  I have my suspensions on why the marriage failed, but why even think of those options.  It is simply easier and better for everybody to simply believe our girls side of the story.

I have a friend that got divorced and it was a love marriage.  The girl looks and acts super innocent and sweet.  Eventually the marriage fell apart over infidelity.

Here is the girls side:

Girl is working and makes a lot of money
The boy used to beat her
The boy blackmailed her into marriage
The boy used to take all the money she made and would not give her anything
The girl never cheated on him
Boy never worked and sat at home watching TV and eating
Girl only cheated once and when she was unhappy in her marriage and that resulted in kids

Here is the boys side:

Girl cheated on him within 1st year of marriage, and this caused him to lose interest in almost everything, including studying for exams.
The kids born during marriage had a different father and the boy did not know until the end of the marriage.
Boy did not work during the marriage much, he never had a chance to build a career since they were moving to help her career.  All the towns they were in were small towns where they was nothing to do.

In story number 2, each side is going to believe their side and there is no way to change their opinions.  Truth does not matter and the only thing that matters is the perception of truth.  Plus when you are looking into the eyes of the girl that you knew as a small girl, and she is telling her side of the story, you are going to believe her, you simply have no other choice.

Let us look at case number 2.  What if the boy really did not beat the girl, or blackmail her into marriage and what if the girl really did cheat on the boy in the first year of marriage and multiple times after that.  What if the boy was a success as soon as the divorce happened when he was able to move to where he had a chance to achieve success?  The truth means that the girl is a WHORE.  You still have to interact with her at parties and other gatherings, she is one of your own.  So trust me, you really do not want to know the truth, it can only damage relationships.

So I guess we will all just have to act like this blind animal and follow along and help our side move on with life, that will be the much easier solution and then going after the truth.  In certain situations you really do not want to learn the truth and these situations listed above are those situations.

Anyway a lot of people are doing what they want, without regard to consequences and Sri Sri (Srirangam Srinivasarao) said of people like this:

If we lose something let it be lost
Friends, well wishers and parents
Let what comes, come along
Hard times, losses, anger, curses

It Telugu it rhymes really well.

So to everybody out there, it looks like you can live how you want to, and be ready to face a few hard times and lose a few friends and well wishers.  But you can choose to live exactly how you want to live as long as you are aware of those consequences.

In conclusion, there are times in your life when you really do not want to know the truth and the above 2 situations are examples of those situations.  You have to live with your side of the family for ever, so why learn the truth, since the truth may only have negative consequences.